In a new age world where we are told that we are all beautiful creatures, desirable to all and sundry...I'm afraid it is simply not the case...mere mammals are we and the game of attract and attracted is what I like to call the flower and the bee.

The flower and the bee is the supposedly complicated dance that we male and female humans play in order to socialize together in couples. But quite simply and whether you want to admit it or not, one person in your couple is a flower and the other is a bee.

The upper and lower hand flower and bee relationship has nothing to do with education, intelligence or wisdom, it is all based on physical attraction, one partner is a beautiful flower in the relationship and the other is the bee attracted to the flower.

Only when we let go of all the niceties and political corrections of this world can we truly see that it is the game of the flower and the bee that keeps this world re-generating, generation after generation.

And it is not a simple case that the female is the flower and the male is the bee, everyone that has had more than a few relationships can tell you what it is like to be the flower and what its like to be the bee.

To understand who the flower and bee of all our relationships are, you need to go all the way back to your first meeting with your partner, who was chasing; desperate to see the other person and who was watching and waiting.

When you establish who was the original flower and the original bee, your relationship should return to the original attraction of that original meeting; the position that each of you took at that meeting can change in your minds but never in reality.

What happens when a bee starts acting like a flower and a flower starts acting like a bee? Quite simply, the balance of nature is thrown out, and neither person will be truly happy until it is restored to its rightful order.

When a bee starts acting like the flower, the flower understandably gets very upset, it is not his or her ego, it is simply the personality of their petals, in this world with this particular partner she or he is the attractor; it is not his or her fault, just nature.

A bee starts acting like a flower for many reasons, including higher intelligence, better work opportunities, even a higher level of self esteem but he or she will always be a bee in his or her current relationship and until he or she starts remembering that and behaving as a bee, he or she and the relationship will never work properly.

As you can imagine it is hard for the bee, to look in the mirror one day and face the reality that he or she was never the flower in their relationship. That against all the new age ideas of equality and balance, their position is one of attraction not attractive.

Don't be confused, this little bee may be the flower in hundreds of relationships that he or she may have, but in their current one they are the bee. And for their current relationship to succeed they must start to act like one or buzz off somewhere else hoping to be a flower.

In this world, there are many confused little bees out there that return from the beauty salon thinking they are beautiful little flowers, and they are to many, but to their current partner they will always be a bee, and I'm afraid at this point in time in their life, that's all that matters.

Flowers on the other hand are never confused; they are merely waiting, waiting to be treated properly, as a flower. A flower will put up with a confused little bee for a very long time, but they will not be truly happy until the bee starts to act like a bee again.  

So what makes a happy bee and a happy flower? It is very simple, the bee must continue to assure the flower that his or her partner is the flower in their relationship; he or she can do this with either words or actions. And as with any great truth in this world, the words or actions should come surprisingly easy for the bee.

This is one truth that will not save the world, yet it keeps the world turning over, it will not bring world peace, but it will bring peace to your world, it will not fix all the relationships in the world, but it may mend a very important fundamental imbalance in yours.

Signed

A little bee.